The 21st Century has revolutionized the idea of love. We can find love through the internet on chats, dating sites, through friends from pretty much anywhere. Being apart in a long distance relationship can frequently happen.
I haven’t done one of these writing challenges in a really long time (a few months probably).
21st century has done its fair share in my life. I used to go on chat rooms and after my second relationship, I even ventured into the world of online dating after one of my friends wanted a companion to try it out. We went to eventually test out the world of Lavalife. The world of online dating is a funny one (when I look back now). Its not one I particularly prefer to share with others but since I’ve already shared so much about myself before, why not bring this out? It has a very educational foundation to it.
Online dating is one of those domains where once you enter, you either stay because you become desired or you leave because its ridiculous and there’s really nothing you can control (if you want to do it for free). You sit around and wait for some guy to be interested and instant message. At least thats what happened in my memory. During that phase, I chatted with a few guys. I never saw myself as a hot commodity but hey, at that moment, it started feeling that way. Except other than feeling desired, I started seeing that online dating was like being in chat rooms. It was meeting a bunch of people with different mindsets of what they wanted. I usually get especially turned off when it comes to someone asking me what I was looking for. Honestly, that was a question I’d have no idea how to answer. One, I never believed in the whole love at first sight thing, plus love isn’t going to grow just from a few chats. Other times, I’d met lots of guys who wanted just a fling or one night stand or expected the first date to end up in bed, etc. Some were rude and degrading and eventually it came to a point that I came to the conclusion that online dating was in fact a waste of my time because if I continued on these ventures, I’d hate every man in the world and vow to stay single because I’d have just lost hope. Thats when I left that world. Maybe I sound really picky right now or just very conservative. I guarantee you I just have my standards as to finding someone and starting an actual relationship (if it was what these guys seemed to be proposing). They were obviously confused.
Now, leaving it might be the best choice because I went back to my own life and just enjoyed time with friends and putting my efforts
I think back, and the 21st century and its online dating made into the success stories but I know deep down and I do warn others that its a creepy and weird world in that universe and to prevail, you need to take time, be analytical and really just find that one person that understands how to let things flow. Because love isn’t all that simple but it isn’t complicated at the same time, we need to give it time and it’ll find some way to surprise us 🙂 into school and definitely loving being single. I found a way to be fully accepting of who I am.
Love does come to us when we least expect it. One day, I opened my email and there it was, months after, a little message saying that someone had messaged me from that stupid online dating site. I looked at it for a second and contemplated whether to delete it. After a few moments, I thought about whether I had anything to lose. Obviously I didn’t, so out of curiosity, I opened it up. This guy’s message sounded truthful and down to earth. It was a guy who wanted to know the girl and not anything more. I replied him and after a few emails and MSN messenger chats (when it still existed), then progressed to phone chats after a month or so. Eventually after 2 or 3 months of online communication, we decided to go for our first date, then our second date, then a third…until fast forward 5+ years. He is the man who I’m planning a future with and also the one who is the center of my universe.
Man, I’m such a romantic…I know! That was pointless rambling..haha!
This is my response to this week’s Weekly Writing Challenge: 21st Century Love. Please head on over HERE to see other responses or read the challenge if you’d like to join in 🙂